POSITIVE MIND TRANSFORMATION

This may be a longish thought for this morning on Inner Transformation.... Recharge your positive energies by the power of your own positive thoughts.... There is a hypothesis that normal human beings use only 10-20% of the processing power of our mind / brain and the remaining is available for enrichment of our lives...While doing a little reading I came across this message - Do not conform yourself to this age, but be transformed by the real power of your mind...One would think the statement above is advice by some modern day proponent of personal development....The fact is that this statement is about two thousand years old and comes from the Bible....To renew your mind means to restore, regenerate, and change the way you think. In fact, the Spanish version of Renewal of your mind, is translated to read Change the way you think.... If you think in a negative manner then change the way you think to be more positive instead...If you are pessimistic then become more optimistic...If you think of doom, then start thinking more of things that make YOU feel more hopeful, happy and healthy..MAKE THIS YOUR OWN PERSONAL HABIT.... If all your thoughts are filled with problems, then start thinking of solutions...If all you depend on is what you perceive with your physical senses, then begin to depend on your mental (spiritual) senses... Your spiritual senses have no boundaries of time, space or dimension...This means that you can become aware of an endless amount of information that can be applied to solving problems of all kinds, making your life progressively better through time..Learning to use the immense capability of your mind in a new and changed way to live our lives...It is a way that depends entirely on your own mental senses and truly allows you to discern between right and wrong, good and bad, problem or solution, good choices and bad choices.... This focused positive perspective to life allows you to live the life of your design, a life that you desire, and one that is your birthright to have...I purposely left out the role of God in this explanation...For most people who believe in God, God represents perfection in power, wisdom and goodness and is one with the Universe from where all things come....God (Universe) responds to OUR thoughts, all thoughts, both positive and negative, and so, it is of great importance that the thoughts you have focus on are only thoughts of what you actually want and only that...This discussion is not unique to just one religious doctrine but to all doctrines that aim to guide those who have ears and want to listen and eyes that want to see towards positive, loving transformation...Your personal transformation does have global effects...As we go, so goes the world, for the world is US. The revolution that will save the world ultimately begins from our own personal transformation....Teachings of Buddha mention that if our thoughts and actions lead to a lessening of negative emotions, then it can safely be adopted and practiced, no matter who originally propounded it.. For in creating greater peace, compassion, and happiness around ourselves, we are making the world a better place... We certainly live in an era of great turmoil. If the teachings that are out there, wherever they come from, help in solving problems, resulting in improved health, happiness, peace, a greater love for one another and overall success, then you can count on them as true and real..They are worth incorporating in our lives....Maybe it's time to transform our mind with this positive ethos of always focusing on the good; our heart and soul will be follow right there with you... Here's wishing you a beautiful life created from the positive thoughts that you brought into the Universe

EVERY DROP MAKES A DIFFERENCE

A man was walking down the beach at sunset.  As he walked along, he saw another man in the distance.  He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water again and again.  As he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach.  He was throwing them back into the  water, one by one. Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."..."I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean.  You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore.  If I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."
"But there must be thousands of starfish on this beach.  You can't possibly get to all of them.  And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast.  Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?" The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one!" ....Just remember, no matter how small the deed, it really does make a difference. Make a difference today.
Do something nice for someone else, even if it's just sending this story to a friend and letting them know someone cares about them....I JUST DID...GOD BLESS YOU AND HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY FILLED WITH SMILES.....

I found this very interesting but long story while browsing online and am sharing the same with you... This is a very old story about a man who didn't believe in love...He was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking..He thought that love doesn't exist. Of course, he had a lot of experience trying to find love, and he had observed the people around him suffer because of love...Much of his life had been spent searching for love, only to find that love didn't exist...Wherever this man went, he used to tell people that love is nothing but an invention of poets, and of religious preachers just to manipulate the weak mind of humans, to have control over humans, to make them believe...He said that love is not real, and that's why no human could ever find true love even though he might look for it...This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing....He read a lot of books, he had studied at the best universities, and he became a respected scholar... He could stand in any public place, in front of any audience,and his logic was very strong...His hypothesis was that love is just like a drug..It is indeed since the love hormone oxytoxin which is released by the brain when you are with a loved ones and makes you feel very high, but it creates a strong need.... You become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don't receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you require your every day doses... Most relationships between lovers therefore become just like a relationship between a drug addict and the supplier of drugs....The partner in a relationship who has the biggest need of love is like the drug addict; the one who has a little less need is like the provider....The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship... You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who either doesn't love, or his stability is less affected by your love... who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart.... You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict....The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug. The drug addict thinks, "What am I going to do if he/she leaves me?" That fear makes the drug addict very possessive.."That love is mine and should be expressed only to me !" The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage...The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no dose at all...The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders his or her sanity and ability to think logically and will do whatever he or she can to avoid being abandoned...The man who did not believe in love went on explaining to everyone why love doesn't exist. "What humans call "love" is nothing but a fear relationship based on control.... Where is the respect? Where is the love they claim to have? There is no love.Young couples, in front of the representation of God, in front of their family and friends, make a lot of promises to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through good times and the bad times....They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. What is amazing, is that they really believe these promises. But after the marriage - one week later, a month later, a few months later - you can see that none of these promises are kept.What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider and the who will have the addiction? You find that a few months later, the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other, little by little, and it grows and grows, until they don't know when the love stopped....They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgements of others, and also afraid of their own judgements and opinions. But where is the love? He used to claim that he saw many old couples that had lived together thirty year, forty years, fifty years and they are so proud to have lived together all those years....But when they talked about their relationship, what they said was, " We survived the matrimony." That means one of them surrendered to the other; at a certain time, he/she gave up and decided to endure the suffering.... The one with the strongest will and less need won the war, but where is that flame they call love? They treat each other like a possession; "She is mine." "He is mine." The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn't exist, and he told others, "I have done all that already. I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love." His arguments were quite logical and he convinced many people by all his words. Love doesn't exist....Then one day this man was walking in a park, and there on a bench was a very beautiful lady who was crying. When he saw her crying, he felt curious.... Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying? You can imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because love doesn't exist. He said, "This is amazing - a woman who believes that love doesn't exist!" Of course, he wanted to know more about her."Why do you say that love doesn't exist?" he asked. "Well, it's a long story," she replied. "I married when I was very young, with all the love, all these illusions, full of hope that I would share my life with this man....We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family....But soon everything changed....I was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home....My husband continued to develop his career, and his success and image outside of home was more important to him than our family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him....We hurt each other, and at a certain point I discovered that I didn't love him and he didn't love me either."But the children needed a father, and that was my excuse to stay and do whatever I could to support him.... Now the children are grown and they have left....I no longer have an excuse to stay with him. There's no respect, there's no kindness....I know that even if I find someone else, its' going to be the same, because love doesn't exist....There is no sense to look around for something that doesn't exist.. But I feel lonely and hollow inside of me...That is why I am crying." Understanding her very well, he embraced her and said, "You are right; love doesn't exist....We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find only selfishness....That hurts us even if we don't think we will be hurt. It doesn't matter how many relationships we have; the same thing happens again and again....Why even search for love any longer?"They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever....It was a wonderful relationship....They respected each other, and they never put each other down....With every step they took together, they were happy....There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing.....They loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.... One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, "Hmm, maybe what I feel for her is love.....But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It's not what the poet say it is, it's not what religion says, because I am not responsible for her....We have the best time together; we enjoy each other.... I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She doesn't embarrass me; she doesn't bother me at all.... I don't feel jealous when she's with other people; I don't feel envy that she is successful....Perhaps love does exist, but it's not what everyone thinks love is." He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she said, "I know exactly what you are talking about....I had the same idea long ago, but I didn't want to share it with you because I know you don't believe in love. Perhaps love does exist, but it isn't what we thought is was." They decided to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that things didn't change...They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.The man's heart was so full with all the love he felt that one night a great miracle happened....He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands....Then a second miracle happened, and his own soul merged with that star....He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that star in her hands to prove his love to her...As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt....This love was overwhelming, and in that moment of doubt, the star fell from her hands and broke into a million little pieces....Now the old man continues to walk around the world swearing that love doesn't exist...And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, when she let it all go. This is the story about the man who didn't believe in love. Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man's part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness...The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands...Happiness never comes from outside of us...He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her....But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness....No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind....She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.If you take your happiness and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later they are going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, they can always take it away. But if happiness only comes from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. We put our star in each other's hands, expecting that she is going to make you happy, and you are going to make her happy. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be. That is the mistake most of us make right from the start. We base our happiness on our partner, and it doesn't work that way. We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail...

YOU ARE THE KEY TO THE POSITIVE YOU

A long message.. yet very meaningful & appropriate ...so sharing here...In the movie "Taare Zameen Par", the art teacher tells the rude & cursing father of a dyslexic boy about the "Solomon Islands", where the tribals don’t cut down a tree...They simply surround the tree & curse it for hours every day... Within a few weeks, the tree dries up & dies ... Difficult to believe?  How can intangible, invisible thoughts & negative words kill a tree?... If you read Bruce H. Lipton’s THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF, you will think a dozen times before saying something demoralizing to yourself or to the people you love...In this book, Mr. Lipton details the power of the conscious & subconscious mind... The subconscious mind is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind & decides most of the things in our lives according to the beliefs it has...Many times we fail to change an unpleasant habit despite our will-power & conscious efforts. It is because the habit gets so strongly programmed in our subconscious mind that the efforts made by our conscious mind hardly make any difference... The Conscious Mind is just a shadow of our Unconscious Mind... So, when the tribals of Solomon Islands curse a tree, they are actually installing negative & harmful beliefs in the tree’s emotion (yes, trees have emotions)....Within few days, those negative emotions becomes a belief & eventually changes the molecular architecture of the tree & kills it from inside.. 2500 years ago Buddha said ‘You are what you think'.. He was endorsing a scientific fact which is now proved correct by Quantum Physics & Molecular Biology...In this book there is a special chapter on Conscious Parenting highlighting the beneficial & harmful effects of what parents say to their children... If you are a parent and you keep cursing your child in the name of constructive criticism, you are installing beliefs in their mind which will keep harming them forever...But if you keep appreciating them sincerely, you are instilling beliefs in their mind which will help them during their entire life.. Also, be careful of what you keep saying to yourself...Repetition of words & thoughts is the best way to install a belief in your subconscious mind...If you keep saying you are a loser, don’t be surprised if you become a loser within a few months or years....If your friends keep saying such things to you, there is no harm in saying a quick goodbye to them... You may value their friendship a lot. But you must value yourself more than such a negative friendship...Accept all people as they are. Love all people unconditionally... Always keep telling yourself that YOU ARE healthy, wealthy, happy, successful & prosperous!... Be positive always.. This positivity will enrich you and transform your life for the better... Even if you don't believe my words, experiment with what I have said and experience the benefits  yourself.. God bless..

IMPORTANCE OF LOVING YOURSELF

In this post today I intend to share some views on why it is important for each one of us to learn to love ourselves unconditionally.... When I penned my thoughts on this topic earlier many questioned me whether this love for oneself wouldn't be considered narcisstic ?....My simple answer is NO... Self love is intended to teach you to love yourself, deeply, just the way you are.... Remember, no one is perfect in this world and irrespective of our flaws, we must love ourselves...The question that comes up often is - Why is it so difficult to love ourselves?....  Many people have asked me similar questions, like, even though we understand the importance of self love, why is it so hard to implement it? How do I implement it...and so on.....Like you, I too found it difficult to put self love into practice, even though the biggest lesson I learned from the tragedies of life is the importance of loving oneself unconditionally. In fact, learning to love and accept myself unconditionally is what healed me and brought me back from the brink of what I thought was an inconceivable event in life...  I often harp on this aspect - Love yourself so intensely and without any questions, as if your entire life depends on it, because it really does....!!!!!... It’s one thing to know the importance of loving oneself in theory, but it's quite another thing to effectively put self-love into practice —and the reason I am highlighting this is because most of us come from cultures and societies that do not promote, or even support, self-love, and we often feel judged if we love ourselves, value ourselves, or put ourselves first..... It almost feels as though we live in an upside-down world where we are taught the opposite of what would actually help us in life. I believe that this is the main reason why so many of us are struggling through life—we are conditioned to believe that loving our self is selfish—which is the complete opposite of what would really help us! And when we inadvertently stumble upon the truth of how to live our lives joyfully—which is, to love ourselves unconditionally—we are judged for practicing it!.... In order to dispel the belief that it’s selfish to love ourselves, let’s just look at its opposite: what does it look like if we don’t love or value ourselves? We feel unworthy, undeserving, and unlovable, and the person we become is one who is needy for love from others...Is being needy an attractive trait... ABSOLUTELY NOT...Simply try it and see people running away from you... Can we ever have someone who will love us unconditionally, without conditions, more so if you are needy... I am yet to come across someone like that, but if you have, my blessings that your love remain eternal... Practically, however, everything in life is transitionary and there may come a day when you may be heart broken - with a void that we believe needs to be filled by others because we believe that it’s selfish to fill it ourselves....This is the person I used to be. I was needy—and a people pleaser—because I needed the validation of others in order to feel worthy. I used to give and give of myself, without any thought of fulfilling my own needs, until I became so physically drained...Please remember neediness is actually very unattractive...The cancer of thoughts that I experienced when I lost a person I thought would be for ever, gave me “permission” to validate myself and take care of myself. It gave me permission to say “no” to others, and put myself first. It was only when I was in the coma of an emotional disaster, at the brink of screwing my life for the love of another person did I realize that I don’t need anyone's permission to love myself and take care of myself! It was at that point that I realized that I am worthy and deserving, and amazing and magnificent just because I exist. This is the realization that saved me and transformed me into the person I am today....I then made a commitment to myself that I would never forsake myself, or let myself down ever again. I would always be my own best friend.....I’ve also noticed that when we love ourselves, we grow stronger and more confident... We don’t need the approval of others in order to be who we are. Instead, we are able to bring our fully-realized, joyful self out into the world—someone who others want to be around with - instead of a self that is needy, with a hole that needs to be filled from the outside.....One of the reasons I share my story and what I learned from my experience is because I don’t want others to have to go through what I did, to realize that much of what we are conditioned to believe is the opposite of what truly serves us....But whichever way, I believe that when you begin to love yourself you will experience your own UNIQUE AMAZING SELF filled with true love and positive energy, that you will realize how special you are.... It is this positive energy which I request you to spread into the world around you, to make this beautiful Universe a far better to live in....