THE ONE WHO TOLERATES YOUR ANGER DESERVES YOUR LOVE...

THE ONE WHO TOLERATES YOUR ANGER DESERVES YOUR LOVE...

The Boss was retiring... Everyone had tears in their eyes on the day of his farewell. One of the employees said,
“Sir, there is one thing we want to learn from you... You worked here for so many years. Leave aside about scolding your subordinates, we have never seen you even raising your voice at them.. We have scolded our subordinates on pressure of work or for other reasons.
We want to know about the seed of your patience.”

The Boss said, “This all comes from the incident of my childhood.. My father was working as a lower level employee in an office... He was a very nice person.. He was respected very much in our family..It happened one day, I was studying in the 4th standard.. I had gone to the office of my father for some reason. I saw that my father was not on his seat.. I waited outside..After some time, the door of the Boss opened, my father came out of the door... I saw the fair face of my father had turned red..
He went straight to a corner and stood there looking outside through a window.. He had not seen me..I went to him and called him slowly..He was taken by surprise and turned back to look at me.. I saw a stream of tears flowing down his eyes.. He was slightly disturbed seeing me..He did not find time to wipe out his tears.. Can my father cry anytime? He was the strongest man in the world for me.. It was out of my wildest imagination that someone could hurt him.. I ran straight to the room of the Boss.. Father was calling me from behind. But,
listening to nothing, I went inside and asked the Boss, “Why did you make my father cry?”.. The Boss was also surprised.. Thereafter, my father tried to make me understand.. But,that day I had decided to take revenge on the Boss.. From that day I decided that I will study well and become a Boss one day,
but I will not make my subordinates cry anytime.. Because, they are not only the employees of my office, they are also respected and dear father or brother or somebody of their families and belong to someone important... People say it is not possible to control others without scolding them...I say, what is love then for?”.. People who come to work are the ones who devote their best and quality time of the day to work, leaving not much time for their families. They do deserve a better treatment from their surroundings..Ships don't sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you and your circumstances get inside you in your mind and weigh you down.. Make your life such where peace becomes your priority and no negativity can exist in your life... Just because you're angry that doesn't give you any right to be cruel... Anger on the other hand doesn't solve anything, it builds nothing, but it can destroy everything...Neurologists claim that every time you resist acting on your anger, you're actually rewiring your brain to be calmer and more loving.. The less you respond to rude, critical, argumentative people... the more peaceful your life becomes.. Explain your anger instead of expressing it, and you will find solutions instead of arguments...

LOVE IS THE ESSENCE OF LIFE AND PRAYER

There can be no prayer without Love ! It happened that one of the great devotees of India, Ramanuja, was passing through a town.. A man attired in robes generally worn by sages and priests visited Ramanuja.. He considered himself an ascetic, the type that ordinarily is attracted towards religion.. Ramanuja while speaking to his followers revealed that love is the basic energy of life and existence.. Nobody can succeed against love.. The ascetic looking man asked Ramanuja that "I would like to be initiated by you. How I can find God? I would like to be accepted as your disciple.. Ramanuja looked at the man and realised that the man in front of him was against the concept of love.. A man who cannot appreciate love is like a dead rock, completely dried, with no heart.. Ramanuja asked the man, "First tell me a few things: have you ever loved anybody?".. The man was shocked by hearing a person like Ramanuja talking about love? - such ordinary worldly things? He said, "What are you saying? I am a religious man.. I have never loved anybody".. Ramanuja persisted.. He said, "You just close your eyes and think a little.. You may have loved, even if you are against love as a feeling.. You may not have loved in reality, but in your imagination.."The man said, "I am absolutely against love, because love is the whole pattern of maya and illusion, and I want to get out of this world, and love is the cause people cannot get out of it.. No, not even in my imagination have I loved!".. Ramanuja persisted.. He said, "Just look within yourself.. Sometimes in your dreams a love object may have appeared".. The man said, "That's why I don't sleep much !But I am not here to be taught love, I am here to be taught prayer.." Ramanuja became sad, and he said, "I cannot help you, because a man who has not known love, how can he appreciate prayer?".. Because prayer is the most refined form of love, the essential love - as if the body has disappeared, only the spirit of love has remained; as if the lamp is no more there, just the flame; as if the flower has disappeared into the earth, but the fragrance is lingering in the air - that is prayer.. Sex is the body of love, love is the spirit; Similarly, love is the body of prayer, prayer is the spirit.. You can draw concentric circles: first circle sex, second circle love, and the third circle, which is the center, is prayer... !!

LOVE IS TRULY THE ESSENCE OF LIFE

Leo Buscaglia, Ph. D., who has written 13 books, most of which deal with the experience of love has this to say... I was one of those fortunate individuals who grew up in a large, passionate, demonstrative Italian family where we were taught to love as naturally as we breathed and ate giant bowls of pasta! It was amazing to me that there were those around who had not been quite so fortunate. I could not help but wonder, "Is all lost for them?"..Of course, in my search for this answer, I discovered that since love is a learned phenomenon, it is never too late to learn to love... I therefore started my Love Class as a result of the suicide of one of my most talented students... She showed no sign of her despair.. Then one day she simply took her life.. I had to ask, "What's the good of all our learning, knowing how to read and write and to spell, if no one ever teaches us the value of life, of our uniqueness, and personal dignity?"..So I started my Love Class.. I taught it free of salary and tuition, just so that students could have a forum to consider the truly essential things... I just facilitated, helping students to discover their own magic... So many of the teachings, books, and songs tell us the same thing that love is the answer.. In the final analysis, love is the only thing that really matters... It is the only thing we take with us when we leave. But we all unfortunately take love for granted.. We assume that we are all perfect lovers and all we need do is wait and our love will grow and blossom as readily as a flower in spring.. Not so.. Love doesn't grow unless we do.. It takes patience, knowledge, experience, determination, and every positive trait we possess... In addition, love is always changing and unless we stay aware and change with it, it eludes us.. We are all born with God-given, unique traits and skills.. But, as with all possibilities they will remain unrealized unless they are developed, nurtured, and put into practice.. You may have the "capacity" to love, but if left undeveloped, you will never gain the "ability.".. A life of love is one of continual growth, where the doors and windows of experience are always open to the wonder and magic that life offers.. To love is to risk living fully.. My love has never had a condition, except that if ever my love keeps you from you, from your growing and realizing your own personal potential then I must step aside.. No one has the right to stand in the way of another's joy, development, or uniqueness.. We live in a small and networked world.. Not a leaf falls that does not effect a myriad of things.. When we reach out to someone in love and the effect is made - everyone, everything which comes in contact with the person we've affected is better for it.. Of course, the converse is true, too...The essence of love is getting out of oneself and into others.. When we care less about our own feelings, our rights, our happiness, our security, etc., and begin to concern ourselves with the feelings, rights, happiness and security of others, we will truly have found the true power of love.. Some simple every day things we could do to bring more love into our lives includes asking ourselves daily what we have done to make the world a better place, to make someone smile, to help someone to feel more secure, etc. It's the simple things which have the greatest effect.. We must never underestimate the strength of a smile or act of kindness.. We create healthy, loving relationships by caring enough to work on them as diligently as we would, if we wanted to perfect a game of golf or tennis or become a gourmet chef.. These things don't just happen.. They require continuous work..Yes, we are born for love but love will die if we do not nurture love constantly.. I am inspired by other people...You can't imagine the joy I feel when I hear that something I've said or done or written has helped others to regain their sense of dignity, to motivate them to develop their unique potential, to encourage them to reach out to others in distress and make them realize that true love emerges from within.. I have learned that love is the most powerful force available to us.. When we have real love we have the strength to perform miracles.. I'd like to be remembered for being a good, kind, loving, gentleman who attempted to live wisely and who cared a lot..I'm living more fully than ever and am discovering new magic every day because of love.. I have never felt so alive!.. I hope this message inspires you to experience greater happiness within you, in life and enjoy every second of your fantastic life.

VALUE YOURSELF

Always remember that YOU are BEAUTIFUL, YOU are WORTHY, YOU are IMPORTANT, YOU are SPECIAL, YOU are TALENTED and that YOU are UNIQUE... There can never be anyone as spectacular as YOU... So be patient with yourself and you will know what it feels like to be patient with others... Be compassionate with yourself and you will know what it feels like to have compassion for others... Be forgiving of yourself and you will know what it feels like to forgive others and be forgiven by others... Be accepting of yourself and you will know what it feels like to accept others.. Love even those whom you consider as unlovable and forgive those who you feel have hurt you and consider as unforgivable...Remember that carrying negative feelings for anyone ONLY HURTS YOU... It's akin to acid burning you from within.. You will never realize it till you actually try it and experience it.. Try forgiveness of yourself as well as others... It will simply unburden you of all the issues you have beaten yourself with, all these years... You will indeed experience freedom if you care to try... Love is caring and affection expressed as positive behavior.. To love others you must give the positive behaviors of love to yourself, so that you feel what it means to love.... It is easier to love people who live far away.. It is not always easy to love those close to us and it is even more difficult to love one's own self..But please try.. A happy person is happy not because everything is perfect in his or her life.. A happy person is happy because he or she adopts a happy and positive attitude to everyone and everything in their life... Forget the things that have hurt you or made you sad... Remember those events that made you glad... Forget the troubles that passed away and remember all the blessings that come your way, each day... It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone who feels unloved in your own home.. Bring unconditional love into your home, for this is where our love for each other must start.. Happy day to you in experiencing real freedom...

POSITIVE MIND TRANSFORMATION

This may be a longish thought for this morning on Inner Transformation.... Recharge your positive energies by the power of your own positive thoughts.... There is a hypothesis that normal human beings use only 10-20% of the processing power of our mind / brain and the remaining is available for enrichment of our lives...While doing a little reading I came across this message - Do not conform yourself to this age, but be transformed by the real power of your mind...One would think the statement above is advice by some modern day proponent of personal development....The fact is that this statement is about two thousand years old and comes from the Bible....To renew your mind means to restore, regenerate, and change the way you think. In fact, the Spanish version of Renewal of your mind, is translated to read Change the way you think.... If you think in a negative manner then change the way you think to be more positive instead...If you are pessimistic then become more optimistic...If you think of doom, then start thinking more of things that make YOU feel more hopeful, happy and healthy..MAKE THIS YOUR OWN PERSONAL HABIT.... If all your thoughts are filled with problems, then start thinking of solutions...If all you depend on is what you perceive with your physical senses, then begin to depend on your mental (spiritual) senses... Your spiritual senses have no boundaries of time, space or dimension...This means that you can become aware of an endless amount of information that can be applied to solving problems of all kinds, making your life progressively better through time..Learning to use the immense capability of your mind in a new and changed way to live our lives...It is a way that depends entirely on your own mental senses and truly allows you to discern between right and wrong, good and bad, problem or solution, good choices and bad choices.... This focused positive perspective to life allows you to live the life of your design, a life that you desire, and one that is your birthright to have...I purposely left out the role of God in this explanation...For most people who believe in God, God represents perfection in power, wisdom and goodness and is one with the Universe from where all things come....God (Universe) responds to OUR thoughts, all thoughts, both positive and negative, and so, it is of great importance that the thoughts you have focus on are only thoughts of what you actually want and only that...This discussion is not unique to just one religious doctrine but to all doctrines that aim to guide those who have ears and want to listen and eyes that want to see towards positive, loving transformation...Your personal transformation does have global effects...As we go, so goes the world, for the world is US. The revolution that will save the world ultimately begins from our own personal transformation....Teachings of Buddha mention that if our thoughts and actions lead to a lessening of negative emotions, then it can safely be adopted and practiced, no matter who originally propounded it.. For in creating greater peace, compassion, and happiness around ourselves, we are making the world a better place... We certainly live in an era of great turmoil. If the teachings that are out there, wherever they come from, help in solving problems, resulting in improved health, happiness, peace, a greater love for one another and overall success, then you can count on them as true and real..They are worth incorporating in our lives....Maybe it's time to transform our mind with this positive ethos of always focusing on the good; our heart and soul will be follow right there with you... Here's wishing you a beautiful life created from the positive thoughts that you brought into the Universe

EVERY DROP MAKES A DIFFERENCE

A man was walking down the beach at sunset.  As he walked along, he saw another man in the distance.  He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water again and again.  As he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach.  He was throwing them back into the  water, one by one. Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."..."I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean.  You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore.  If I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."
"But there must be thousands of starfish on this beach.  You can't possibly get to all of them.  And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast.  Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?" The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one!" ....Just remember, no matter how small the deed, it really does make a difference. Make a difference today.
Do something nice for someone else, even if it's just sending this story to a friend and letting them know someone cares about them....I JUST DID...GOD BLESS YOU AND HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY FILLED WITH SMILES.....

I found this very interesting but long story while browsing online and am sharing the same with you... This is a very old story about a man who didn't believe in love...He was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking..He thought that love doesn't exist. Of course, he had a lot of experience trying to find love, and he had observed the people around him suffer because of love...Much of his life had been spent searching for love, only to find that love didn't exist...Wherever this man went, he used to tell people that love is nothing but an invention of poets, and of religious preachers just to manipulate the weak mind of humans, to have control over humans, to make them believe...He said that love is not real, and that's why no human could ever find true love even though he might look for it...This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing....He read a lot of books, he had studied at the best universities, and he became a respected scholar... He could stand in any public place, in front of any audience,and his logic was very strong...His hypothesis was that love is just like a drug..It is indeed since the love hormone oxytoxin which is released by the brain when you are with a loved ones and makes you feel very high, but it creates a strong need.... You become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don't receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you require your every day doses... Most relationships between lovers therefore become just like a relationship between a drug addict and the supplier of drugs....The partner in a relationship who has the biggest need of love is like the drug addict; the one who has a little less need is like the provider....The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship... You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who either doesn't love, or his stability is less affected by your love... who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart.... You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict....The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug. The drug addict thinks, "What am I going to do if he/she leaves me?" That fear makes the drug addict very possessive.."That love is mine and should be expressed only to me !" The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage...The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no dose at all...The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders his or her sanity and ability to think logically and will do whatever he or she can to avoid being abandoned...The man who did not believe in love went on explaining to everyone why love doesn't exist. "What humans call "love" is nothing but a fear relationship based on control.... Where is the respect? Where is the love they claim to have? There is no love.Young couples, in front of the representation of God, in front of their family and friends, make a lot of promises to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, to be there for each other, through good times and the bad times....They promise to love and honor each other, and make promises and more promises. What is amazing, is that they really believe these promises. But after the marriage - one week later, a month later, a few months later - you can see that none of these promises are kept.What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider and the who will have the addiction? You find that a few months later, the respect they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other, little by little, and it grows and grows, until they don't know when the love stopped....They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgements of others, and also afraid of their own judgements and opinions. But where is the love? He used to claim that he saw many old couples that had lived together thirty year, forty years, fifty years and they are so proud to have lived together all those years....But when they talked about their relationship, what they said was, " We survived the matrimony." That means one of them surrendered to the other; at a certain time, he/she gave up and decided to endure the suffering.... The one with the strongest will and less need won the war, but where is that flame they call love? They treat each other like a possession; "She is mine." "He is mine." The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn't exist, and he told others, "I have done all that already. I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love." His arguments were quite logical and he convinced many people by all his words. Love doesn't exist....Then one day this man was walking in a park, and there on a bench was a very beautiful lady who was crying. When he saw her crying, he felt curious.... Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying? You can imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because love doesn't exist. He said, "This is amazing - a woman who believes that love doesn't exist!" Of course, he wanted to know more about her."Why do you say that love doesn't exist?" he asked. "Well, it's a long story," she replied. "I married when I was very young, with all the love, all these illusions, full of hope that I would share my life with this man....We swore to each other our loyalty, respect, and honor, and we created a family....But soon everything changed....I was the devoted wife who took care of the children and the home....My husband continued to develop his career, and his success and image outside of home was more important to him than our family. He lost respect for me, and I lost respect for him....We hurt each other, and at a certain point I discovered that I didn't love him and he didn't love me either."But the children needed a father, and that was my excuse to stay and do whatever I could to support him.... Now the children are grown and they have left....I no longer have an excuse to stay with him. There's no respect, there's no kindness....I know that even if I find someone else, its' going to be the same, because love doesn't exist....There is no sense to look around for something that doesn't exist.. But I feel lonely and hollow inside of me...That is why I am crying." Understanding her very well, he embraced her and said, "You are right; love doesn't exist....We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find only selfishness....That hurts us even if we don't think we will be hurt. It doesn't matter how many relationships we have; the same thing happens again and again....Why even search for love any longer?"They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever....It was a wonderful relationship....They respected each other, and they never put each other down....With every step they took together, they were happy....There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing.....They loved to be together, because when they were together they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.... One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, "Hmm, maybe what I feel for her is love.....But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It's not what the poet say it is, it's not what religion says, because I am not responsible for her....We have the best time together; we enjoy each other.... I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She doesn't embarrass me; she doesn't bother me at all.... I don't feel jealous when she's with other people; I don't feel envy that she is successful....Perhaps love does exist, but it's not what everyone thinks love is." He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she said, "I know exactly what you are talking about....I had the same idea long ago, but I didn't want to share it with you because I know you don't believe in love. Perhaps love does exist, but it isn't what we thought is was." They decided to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that things didn't change...They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the love grew more and more. Even the simplest things made their hearts sing with love because they were so happy.The man's heart was so full with all the love he felt that one night a great miracle happened....He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands....Then a second miracle happened, and his own soul merged with that star....He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that star in her hands to prove his love to her...As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt....This love was overwhelming, and in that moment of doubt, the star fell from her hands and broke into a million little pieces....Now the old man continues to walk around the world swearing that love doesn't exist...And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, when she let it all go. This is the story about the man who didn't believe in love. Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man's part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness...The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands...Happiness never comes from outside of us...He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her....But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness....No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind....She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.If you take your happiness and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later they are going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, they can always take it away. But if happiness only comes from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. We put our star in each other's hands, expecting that she is going to make you happy, and you are going to make her happy. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be. That is the mistake most of us make right from the start. We base our happiness on our partner, and it doesn't work that way. We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail...